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<p>[QUOTE=&quot;journeymagazine, post: 862970, member: 84&quot;]I guess I&#039;ll share too - Joy your name always affects me; below you&#039;ll understand why. (Below written a few months ago)</p><p><br /></p><p>n Boston about to meet my daughter I never knew I had (I know, right?!) - and it&#039;s a God shot story to be sure!</p><p>When I was 18-19 I had a girlfriend named Ida; it wasn&#039;t a long or deep relationship - we were kids - but right after we broke up she got in touch with me &amp; told me she was pregnant, was too young to have a baby &amp; needed $150 for an abortion. I got it for her, giving a small argument that we could try again to make it and have the baby, but she knew better than me that we weren&#039;t going to be like we were - it had been young lust, not love.</p><p>Jump ahead 39 years - my sister &amp; niece decided to trace their family tree, so they got the DNA kit 23 &amp; me, took saliva samples &amp; sent them in.</p><p>A few weeks later my sister met me, my brother &amp; my dad and told us she needed a mouth swab from each of us because one of us had a daughter we didn&#039;t know about! </p><p>I wasn&#039;t worried; I&#039;d only had 1 child, my daughter Joy, and years later - after her death, prison, drinking &amp; drugs - I had remarried &amp; we had tried to have another baby (more for my wife than me - I was afraid if I ever had another child I would never let it out of my sight for fear of another freak accident like the recliner chair footrest strangling little Joy), but my wife never got pregnant. </p><p>And after taking us both to a fertility clinic, I was informed that &quot;Your fish are there, but they don&#039;t swim - you will never have anymore children&quot;) - so I wasn&#039;t worried; the unknown daughter couldn&#039;t be mine.</p><p>Well, it turns out I DO have another child! Apparently Ida never got the abortion; she gave birth &amp; then gave the child up for adoption! And I am sure she gave it up for adoption for the same reason she didn&#039;t have the abortion - because she loved her child. I believe she knew a 17 yr old single mom with no education or money was not the best beginning for a child &amp; did what she thought was the best for her child.. </p><p>And now I&#039;m in Boston getting ready to meet my daughter! And even cooler? Her adoptive parents were so happy to finally have a child that the name they decided to give her? Joy!</p><p>JOY! She has the same name as my mom &amp; the daughter I lost (and also the name of the sober house for girls I&#039;d opened in her memory: Joy&#039;s House)!</p><p>And another shot of God - she is a nurse in a fertility clinic (just like the place I was told I&#039;d never have children again)</p><p>How cool is that?</p><p>I am grateful that God gave her such wonderful parents who raised her with love &amp; guidance.</p><p>I am - pleasantly - shocked that she is named Joy, and that she works in a place that told me I wouldn&#039;t ever have another child.</p><p>And I am feeling nervous, scared, excited, and feeling more feelings that I don&#039;t have words for - I am going to meet my daughter today!</p><p>PS - my sister &amp; niece are also here to meet her today; we&#039;ve talked &amp; text &amp; video chat - but today I finally meet her!</p><p>God shots.[/QUOTE]</p><p><br /></p>

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